28/6/04

Recently my world came crashing down on me.
My heart is full of anger.
Today I received this email again from a jameslau@peachghl.com
I will usually delete it thinking it is some kind of junk or virus. But today, I decided to read it. It did knock some senses into my head.

"Anger is no remedy for anger.
When it comes to being gentle, start with yourself. Don't get
upset with your imperfections.
Being disappointed by failure is understandable, but it shouldn't
turn into bitterness or spite directed at yourself.
It's a great mistake--because it leads nowhere--to get angry because you
are angry, upset at being upset, disappointed because you are disappointed.

So don't fool yourself. You cannot correct a mistake by repeating
it. It's just a seed-bed for renewed anger. And don't fool yourself into
thinking that self-recrimination is a sign of virtue. It is a sign of
self-love.
You are not perfect. Try then to take your failings in stride.
Look at yourself calmly, gently, with clear-thinking regret.
Quiet, steady repentance is far more effective than emotional upset. It
goes far deeper and lasts far longer.

Be not angry along the way.
We are on a journey to a more blessed life. Let us not, along the
way, be angry with one another. Instead let us go forward with our fellow
travelers, our brothers and sisters, gently, in peace and in love. And
whatever happens along the way, however great the provocation, do not let
anger into your heart.

Take with you the advice of Joseph when he bid his brothers
good-bye: "be not angry along the way."
Don't let anger get the smallest foothold in your heart.
Exclude absolutely, as Augustine advises, even its slightest presence,
however justified and reasonable it may seem. For once it gets into your
heart it is hard to uproot.
A mote rapidly becomes a beam. It will stay with you and if you
ignore the apostle Paul's advice, and let the sun go down on your anger, it
will harden into hatred.

Constantly fed by imaginings and delusions, it will become all but
impossible to set yourself free of it. It is best to avoid all anger rather
than try to come to terms with it; for if we give anger an inch it will
surely take a mile.

Imitate the apostles who when they found themselves caught in a
raging storm, called upon God to help them. He will still your anger as he
stilled the seas and replace it with His peace.
Remember, however, to pray calmly and gently."


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